I'm ain't no stranger to love. When it is reciprocated it is wonderful. If not it sucks like hell.
In principle I try to practice Unconditional Love. Just give it away without having to expect anything in return. Infaq or to give for the pleasure of God fits in this category. I always been a giver. I derive tremendous amount of pleasure from giving. Unfortunately there are plenty of opportunists around. So I stop giving to the needy (not necessarily the poor).
Still, I have a big heart. So now, instead of giving I share. To me love is like a bowl of water. You cannot divide water in a bowl. It transgresses boundaries. Each loving experience is unique. The more you love the more the bowl is filled, Eventually the water in the bowl will become more until it flows into a Greater Love. This is the abundance mentality.
To best experience Unconditional Love is either from a baby or a pet. They are unassuming and nonjudgmental. Adults have too many rules to fall in love. End up they get hurt the most. Love is so simple. It is a chemical reaction. When cupid strikes it triggers the production of a neurotransmitter called dopamine. It's dopamine that makes you larger than life and makes you feel like walking on water.
That is the wonderful part. When you create a bonding with the other person, that produces oxytocin, another form of neurotransmitter. You can produce these neurotransmitter by inducing your state of gladness. To change your state you just change what your mind and your body represent.
Changing your mind can be done by changing your internal representation. Very simple, your mind effect you body and your body effects the mind. Try this, think of something happy but try to frown. You'll find that it is not possible. Or try the other way around; smile and think of something sad. You can't do it either (in order for these experiments to work you must do it wholeheartedly).
Well you can experiment this experience with breathing and body posture. It you notice, when you are feeling in love, you normally take a deep breath. Feel love, breathe deep. Well the opposite is true; deep breathe, feel love. Motion create emotion.
It is also true that if you sit upright, you will feel energize and if you slouch you will feel bored and tired. *[M]e humans have 4 dominant states, that is the state or glad, mad, sad or scared. Each state is mutually exclusive. They cannot coexist at the same time. Well, what is love then? It is no other than a permutation of the state of glad. If love makes you feel mad, sad, or scared, then it is not love. It could be jealousy, depression or vengeance.
* External intervention.
I believe too many people fall in love with the wrong people. Either they fall in love with a toxic person or they fall in love with somebody who is insincere. Either way, they gonna get hurt. What to do then? Get out of the relationship as fast as possible. There are plenty of loving out there.
Do not confuse love with sex. You can have a loving relationship without sex and you can have sex without love. Both love and sex are potential energy. It can enrich you or it can rob you. Pretty much like a rapier sword. The key here is maturity. You need maturity because both parties require mutual consent to make it work.
As a parting thought, the wisdom within counts. You can have a (or many) loving relation(s) provided you love yourself first. Not *i[s] a narcissistic kind of way by as an individual who had accepted his or her life as a special gift worth sharing.
* External intervention.
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